Relationship Counseling in Cheshire, CT
Relationships Have a HUGE Impact on Your Mood
A difficult relationship with a partner, family member, friend, or co-worker can feel overwhelming. It can trigger anxiety, low mood, loss of appetite, and sleep problems. It can lead to rumination and diminish happiness in key areas of our lives. Many of us are affected by toxic dynamics, codependency, and mismatched attachment styles, which can make us feel depressed and defeated.
People often say, “If so-and-so would just stop being difficult or do what they’re supposed to, I’d be fine! They need therapy, not me.” The bad news: Therapy for you won’t instantly change others. I wish it could!
Unfortunately, going to therapy won’t change others directly, but it can help you feel better. Therapy may improve your relationships or help you set healthy boundaries. By examining your relationship and your role in it, you can make subtle adjustments in how you communicate. Changing how you communicate CAN lead others to respond differently. It can improve your satisfaction with the relationship and help you decide how much to invest.
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Women often come to therapy because they are unhappy in their relationship with a partner. It’s easy to get stuck in patterns that make us feel disconnected, misunderstood, and alone.
Therapy is a place to talk out your thoughts and feelings, rather than just thinking the same things over and over, or talking to friends whose opinions may be influenced by their own experiences and relationships. Therapy can help you get a relationship back on track or help you decide whether to leave it.
Therapy for Relationship Problems Leads to Better Communication
In sessions, I help you discern how you feel and what you want, so you can communicate better with your partner. Sometimes we’re so busy that we don’t even know how we feel, or if we do, we might be afraid to express it. I teach communication techniques that can help you feel heard.
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Sometimes, clients question whether to leave a relationship, but can’t imagine separating or divorcing. They worry about children, finances, fear, and what others will think. It can be confusing when, on some days, you feel unhappy and ready to leave, and on others, things seem fine. Thoughts like 'Maybe I haven’t tried hard enough?' or 'What if I’m more unhappy alone?' make it hard to decide whether there is still room to work on the relationship, and where to start. Therapy can help you think through these feelings in a supportive, non-judgmental way.
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Another common issue in therapy is the relationship between parents and adult children. Both parents and adult children often have different expectations about what the relationship should look like, and there is no “normal”. Some parents wish their children lived closer, called more, and were more involved. Others want more boundaries and their kids to be more independent. Some people come to therapy to set boundaries on intrusive grandparents, and others to mourn that their parents don’t want to be more involved. In counseling, we help you identify what you want and clarify your desires and boundaries with others in your life.
How a Relationship Therapist Can Help
Therapy is a supportive space to assess your role in the relationship, set realistic goals, and make changes. I can help you learn relationship skills that facilitate change and help get your needs met. I have extensive training and experience helping people meet their relationship goals, whether that’s communicating their needs more clearly or knowing when to set boundaries.
Ready to Get Started with Relationship Counseling in Cheshire, CT?
Schedule a free consultation today to discuss your unique relationship concerns and explore how therapy can help you take the next step toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.
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Relationship counseling is also available via telehealth across Connecticut.